In yesterday’s blog, From Why Me to What’s Next, we explored the more catabolic, or destructive, experience of asking ‘why me’ when we’re facing challenges sometimes in life. We looked, instead at asking…what’s next? What do I choose to make of this experience?
It’s all part of the “Me, First” and the “What’s Next” approach we undertake in my coaching model. Something happened that changed life as you knew it forever. To overcome a challenge or loss you will need to be willing to spend some time putting yourself first. This doesn’t mean abandoning your responsibilities. But it does mean taking time to prioritize your life so you can get some tools and resources in place to support you and come up with an action plan for working through the changes.
When a significant change occurs, whether by choice or circumstance, there will be aspects to the situation or event that need attention. If it is a medical condition, you will need a team of doctors and health care professionals plus your personal support team. In my 7 Step Life Transitions Model, we use the personal inventories process to identify what steps need to be taken to manage that aspect of the challenge. And then comes, what next.
“What’s Next” is about taking this opportunity to get to know yourself, identify core values, reset priorities so they are in alignment with what matters most to you and make a plan for the future that inspires you into forward action motivated by your passion for your goals. No matter what life changing situation has occurred there is a way to move past ‘why me’ and build a conscious ‘what’s next’ that empowers you. The life I have created is the best evidence I can offer that the model works. By following the 7 Steps, I was able to manage the practical challenges and details being widowed generated AND I was able to recreate a life full of passion, meaning and purpose.
So have your ‘why me’ moment and then find the courage to transform the question into ‘what’s next.’ This is what turns challenges into incredible possibilities. I dare you…and I believe if you dare yourself you will be amazed at what you can create. Call or email me today to find out how to design a coaching program around “What’s Next” for you.