Creating a strong relationship with yourself gives you the chance to become clear about your core values and it gives you the freedom to choose to be with others without doing so in order to fill a void.
Being independent doesn’t, however, mean that we can’t benefit greatly from key relationships in our lives.
There are some situations where one plus equals a better outcome. We often aren’t very good at self-acknowledgment and self-accountability until we build these muscles.
This is why I recommend building a board of directors, particularly when you first take on creating some significant change. Don’t try to do it all on your own. Invite people who either have expertise in areas you may need some support in from time to time or who are good at holding a vision of you at your highest potential.
Another step you can take is to enroll an accountability partner. Together you can:
- set goals
- do regular check-ins to keep on target
- identify the accomplishments and successes
- include acknowledgment in your accountability conversations so you have the opportunity to hear from someone else the changes you are creating in your life
For cancer survivors and caregivers, building a team, identifying the pooled resources available through them and having that extra support is particularly important. Your board of directors for your healing project could be made up of:
- the clinical director at your treatment facility
- your doctors (family, oncology & other specialists)
- oncology nurses and other dedicated front line providers
- psychosocial supporters such as coaches, patient advocates, therapists, support group facilitators and licensed social workers
- someone who has walked in shoes similar to yours (connect through American Cancer Society, Imerman Angels or on talkabouthealth.com for breast cancer survivors)
- integrative healing providers such as your acupuncturist, yoga instructor, nutritionist, etc.
- friends & family
Now is a good time to put yourself and your goals first particularly when it comes to wellness. Step into the power of self-reliance but align yourself with a group of people who have your back and will support and encourage you in this process. Think big and live large!