According to iPEC’s Energy Leadership Model, Level 2 is about conflict, either internal with oneself or external with others. It is also the level where we feel anger. In this level it is common to feel “pissed off” or “fed up” about a situation or relationship. If you react from Level 2, instead of resolving situations you may instigate further problems or issues. Anger is sometimes an appropriate response when directed in the right way but when it is an unconscious reaction, it is difficult to create an anabolic outcome.
The anger energy of Level 2, when used in a healthy way can catapult you into Level 3…the first level where there is anabolic energy. Our goal is not to eliminate the lower energy levels or get rid of catabolic energy. It is not about judging these concepts as negative ~ it is about creating awareness of these concepts and how they are showing up in our lives so we can begin to transform them.
There are some people who only understand anger as a motivator and in those times, you may need to use the tool of communicating with anger energy. You only want to do this in an aware manner. It is not about launching into a tirade, it is more like the feeling of standing your ground, setting a boundary coming from a place of being clear that you are not willing to compromise because what is being asked completely goes against your core values. You will not be heard if you yell, swear or threaten…that is catabolic anger energy. This will either lead the other person to completely shut down or to come right back with the same response to you…and you will be at an impasse, not a resolution.
You can express anger in an anabolic way with a change of tone, direct eye contact and by clearly outlining your position and reasoning behind it. If you find yourself getting triggered and wanting to respond out of catabolic energy, then let the person know the conversation is becoming unproductive and you need to step away.
Creating sustainable results, creative solutions, and powerful relationships is challenging to generate from Level 2!