Been holding back in life? Falling short of the level of success you know you’re capable of? Not quite ready to make your next move? Watch this video and then ask yourself again,
She stood out like a yellow rose against the beige backdrop of the waiting room. Dressed more for the derby than an oncology appointment, the woman, whose name I would never know, looked out with large, dark doe eyes from under the wide brim of her floppy sunshine colored hat. Over-sized pearls the size of a Robin’s eggs circled her neck. But it was the shoes that compelled me to speak.
“Those would look great on a Tango floor,” I shared, pointing at the flowered stilettos with four inch heels. Her smile broke the demure posture she’d been holding as she reached back into a memory of when she used to dance. Before cancer. We talked about how much she loved the dance and how long it took her to finally drag her husband to classes. Just before she was diagnosed. Just before “the wheels fell off” as she put it.Details
Transform Your Life & Business from the Core
A two-week telesummit that will inspire you to go from ordinary to extraordinary
October 1st-3rd & 8th-10th
What does the word transform mean to you? Perhaps it gives you an image of the potential you know you have but have not figured out how to tap into just yet. Beginning October 1st, iPEC Coaching will be hosting a telesummit, that seeks to help you understand where you currently see yourself, what you see FOR yourself, and show you the many roads to get there!Details
September 11th will long be a day that carries meaning here in the United States. Until 2001, it was just another day of the month. But that year, just four months after losing my husband to cancer, the towers came tumbling down. What had seemed to be an isolated time of grieving my own singular loss transformed into a period of national mourning.
It is important to honor our losses and give ourselves time to heal. It is also important to remember and honor those whose lives ended that day and all the lives that were forever changed when their loved ones did not come home. However, in time healing comes not just from remembering but from doing so with purpose. Finding actions we can take to make a difference in the world ~ more love, less hate, more compassion, less judgment, more joy, less fear ~ can help us turn loss into serving a purpose.Details
We continue to follow Tracy Whitworth, the Survivorship Care Coordinator for Cancer Treatment Centers of America in Phoenix, as she trains to become a certified professional coach through iPEC’s Coach Training Program.
Tracy, you recently completed your first on-the-ground training weekend – three very full days of learning coaching skills with iPEC. What was your biggest ah-ha moment of the weekend you’d like to share?
For me, it was becoming truly aware. The weekend intensive gave me the opportunity to recognize where my apprehensions, fears and worries stemmed from. Even more exciting was the realization that I have the power to change this and move forward. Does this mean I magically don’t still have fearful, worrying moments? Of course not. They still occur, but I am better equipped to handle these moments through awareness and support I have now built.
What are two ways you feel you will now approach your role differently with what you’ve learned in just this first weekend?Details
Every once in awhile, I experience a brief window of time where I’m not on my game. I’ll feel unclear and not as present in the moment as usual. As a former professional athlete, I have a good sense when I’m out of balance or things are not clicking. I’ll stumble, question myself, or make choices that don’t fully align with my values. It feels awkward and uncomfortable.
When I noticed this off-center feeling recently, I asked myself, “how do I get back on track?” Maybe because I’m a visual person or maybe because I’m a dancer; the image that popped into my head was a ballerina dancing on pointe.
It takes incredible balance and control to dance in toe shoes. Just walking in them is a feat well beyond the normal person’s ability. It takes years of basic training to strengthen the body to be able to make a ballerina look like she is effortlessly floating across a stage.Details
Tracy, you read my blog post, The Language of Cancer and we felt that addressing this topic up front at the start of your journey for our readers would be beneficial. One of the goals of coaching is to reduce stress so knowing that certain words or phrases can be “hot buttons” for people, we decided to explore this as part of laying the foundation of this journey of transformation.
What one takeaway stood out most to you in that blog post you feel your clients could most benefit from? What about it do you feel could be beneficial?
I truly enjoyed your written piece regarding language and the importance the written word, along with the limitations it has. We all come from different points of views. This can have an impact on how we interpret what is being said, but just as you pointed out there is typically no malice intended in the words spoken. It’s just that we each have our own perspective of what they mean. What human beings most desire is to be able to convey our thoughts, feelings, and needs appropriately in a way we are heard.Details
Last week in Part 1, I introduced you to the new initiative at Cancer Treatment Centers of America® (CTCA) in Phoenix) and how Tracy Whitworth, RN, is taking the lead as the first Survivorship Care Coordinator to enter iPEC’s full coach training certification program. This week, we continue my interview with Tracy.
Tracy, what are some of the top challenges facing survivors you believe becoming trained as a coach will help you address?
Fear is the first thing that comes to mind. I recall a close friend of mine who was diagnosed with breast cancer tell me that once she heard she had breast cancer she probably heard about every third word. In that moment, everything the doctor was saying seemed to sound muffled and incoherent. It was hard for her to not to go to a place of despair which can be a very natural response to hearing news like this. It can be even harder for someone to pull himself or herself out of that reaction.Details
I love featuring stories of people who have faced the challenge of cancer and created a way to make a difference for others out of the experience. Recently, Margot Malin of Lots to Live For offered me the opportunity to guest blog on her Cancer Blog: Lots To Live For! about my experiences creating my eBook project, 10 to Thrive. I wanted to reciprocate and also find out more about her and her company.
Margot, please share what your inspiration was to start Lots to Live For.
I had a successful eighteen year career at a major Wall Street investment management firm. In 2002 several events motivated me to “Pay it Forward” and launch Lots to Live For – a Collection of Resources for Cancer Patients.Details
In my work as a cancer survivorship coach, a common theme emerged early on. Over and over again, survivors share their experience of the terrifying transition from end of treatment. While their care teams, family and friends gather around to celebrate, ring bells and complete other rituals, survivors often feel conflicted…grateful to end treatment but fearful over what life will look like moving forward.
Commonly, the metaphor survivors choose to describe this moment is that it is like being walked up to the edge of a cliff and being pointed toward a beautiful horizon on the other side of a bottomless chasm without any bridge in sight. All they see is a 1,000-foot drop below.
Last year, history was made. A bridge is under construction at Cancer Treatment Centers of America® (CTCA) in Phoenix to help their survivors create a path to recreate what’s next so they can more consciously design their life after being diagnosed with cancer.Details